The wHOLE: An Interview With Ramon Hamilton

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Episode 30 of the Express welcomes a fearless filmmaker from a production company that’s tackling important stories head-on. Writer/Director Ramon Hamilton founded Think Ten Media Group along with his wife, Producer Jennifer Fischer. Think Ten is telling stories of very human struggles with some of today’s most important issue as their backdrop.

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This week sees the launch of their new web series The wHOLE which is an unflinching look at solitary confinement. Ramon endeavors to look at all sides of an issue within his story without losing the intimate, human element. We also talk about how he embraces the limitations of shooting on a smaller independent budget. This is a very informative listen for people looking to write important dramas and for people who want to make movies but don’t have access big studio money. Enjoy: 

Links To:

You can watch The wHOLE here:

http://www.thewholeseries.com/

Click here to learn more about The wHOLE and to support future episodes:

http://www.seedandspark.com/studio/whole

For more on Think Ten Media Group:

http://www.thinktenmediagroup.com/

Ramon Hamilton’s IMDB profile:

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm2077065/?ref_=fn_al_nm_1

You can find Think Ten Media Group on twitter here:

http:/twitter.com/ramon_hamilton

http://twitter.com/IndieJenFischer

http://twitter.com/ThinkTenMedia

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The Dan & Travis Show Podcast: An Awesome Thing

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The Chronic Rift: A series of podcasts that attempt to “find the culture in pop culture.”

http://www.chronicrift.com/

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Jamie And Jonathan: An Interview With Kyle C Mumford

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I’m very pleased to welcome fellow New Jersey native, filmmaker Kyle C Mumford to the Express. Kyle’s artistic journey through life has seen him wear many hats in the entertainment business. Kyle has extensive experience editing, sound mixing, screenwriting and is the director of several short films. His latest short, “Jamie And Jonathan” is tells the story of a failed writer driving his estranged son to a funeral.

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“Jamie And Jonathan” is a drama exploring the meaning of fatherhood but is filled with lots of comedy as well. Kyle and I talk in detail about the how connected and important comedy is to drama. Kyle tells us about his experiences in various positions has helped him become a better director. And he also tells about how he became a screenwriter despite being told in his youth it was impossible because he has dyslexia. Kyle has proven it’s very much not impossible. Enjoy:

Links:

For more on Jamie And Jonathan and how you can contribute to the film:

https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/jamie-and-jonathan-short-film#activity

To see more of Kyle’s work, check out his website:

http://www.kylemumford.com/

Kyle on IMDB:

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm3339053/?ref_=fn_al_nm_1

You can find Kyle on twitter here:

https://twitter.com/KyleMumfordFilm

The Handsome Timmy D Express is proud to be a part of:

The Dan & Travis Show Podcast: An Awesome Thing

http://thedanandtravisshow.libsyn.com/

and 

The Chronic Rift: A series of podcasts that attempt to “find the culture in pop culture.”

http://www.chronicrift.com/

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Finding Character: An Interview With Simone Bailly

We kick off December with Episode 21 of the HTD Express. Simone Bailly is an actress who’s worked across many genres in television and film. You’ve seen her in recent sci-fi icons like “Stargate: SG-1,” “Battlestar Galactica” and “Smallville.” But she’s also appeared in dramas like “The L-Word” as well as a new independent feature about modern romance “Life Partners” alongside Leighton Meester (Gossip Girl) and Gillian Jacobs (Community). This being the digital age, you can rent “Life Partners” on itunes right now but it also opens in theatres this Friday, December 5th, 2014.

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Simone has experienced the acting industry in both Vancouver and Los Angeles. She shares with us an actor’s perspective on how to approach character. For screenwriters everywhere, this conversation offers a new angle of looking at your scripts. Simone tells us exactly what goes through the mind of the person who is handed a script and tasked with bringing characters to life. We also talk about the pros and cons of taking risks to stand out from the crowd. There’s a lot of insight in here about how close acting and screenwriting actually are. Enjoy:

“Life Partners” is available here:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/movie/life-partners/id927831172

Simone Bailly’s website:

http://simonebailly.com/

Simone Bailly’s facebook fan page:

www.facebook.com/pages/Simone-Bailly-Fan-Page/202595129755687

Simone Bailly on twitter:

twitter.com/SimoneBailly

Simone Bailly on IMDB:

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm1140759/?ref_=nv_sr_1

Simone Bailly is repped by Bright Alliance Media.

The Handsome Timmy D Express is proud to be a part of:

The Dan & Travis Show Podcast: An Awesome Thing

http://thedanandtravisshow.libsyn.com/

and 

The Chronic Rift: A series of podcasts that attempt to “find the culture in pop culture.”

http://www.chronicrift.com/

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Hello From South Africa: An Interview With Rizelle Januk

In the most multicultural episode of the Express yet, I’m proud to be joined by actress, model and director Rizelle Januk. Rizelle is of Indian descent and joins us all the way from the nation of South Africa. I didn’t know a whole lot about Indian culture or South Africa so this episode turned out to be a real education for me. And despite the geographical distances Rizelle offers insight that will be useful to anyone on the outside of Hollywood who dreams of getting inside one day.

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Rizelle talks about the challenges of chasing her dreams while living in a region that doesn’t have many opportunities. And what opportunities do arise, many casting people don’t know where to fit her because of her mixed heritage. However, Rizelle is not taking “no” for an answer and has created her own opportunities in several international independent films. She also highlights how to use social media for networking and how to capitalize on any kind of break, such as being a finalist for Miss Earth in 2010.

In order to make the time difference work, I had to stay up a bit late and Rizelle had to get up a bit early so please pardon any tiredness you may hear.  Overall, this is a great message about following your dreams, no matter what the restrictions. I hope you enjoy…

LINKS:

Rizelle’s Acting Reel Can Be Seen Here:

https://www.dropbox.com/s/mu2wl539sazlzb2/Rizelle%20Show%20reel.wmv?dl=0

Rizelle has more on her Youtube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/user/MegaRizelle

The Girl Makes Indie Homepage:

http://girlmakesindiemovie.com/

You can also find Rizelle on Twitter:

@Rizellej

The Handsome Timmy D Express is proud to be a part of:

The Dan & Travis Show Podcast: An Awesome Thing

http://thedanandtravisshow.libsyn.com/

and 

The Chronic Rift: A series of podcasts that attempt to “find the culture in pop culture.”

http://www.chronicrift.com/

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Follow Your Bliss: 38 Things I’ve Learned

I turned 38 last week.  Like most new ages, it doesn’t feel very different from the previous one. Not at first anyway. But 38, almost 40. Preventing accidents, I’m approaching a theoretical halftime.  And many a blogger and writer has made a list of the 38 things they’ve learned in their near 4 decades on the planet Earth. I’ve found many of those lists interesting and informative, so I’m gonna share 38 life lessons.  These are not meant to be absolute truths, but after learning some of these the hard way, I can vouch for their authenticity.

Oh and the last one just might be the meaning of life.

1- People who are very successful often talk about gratitude. People who are very unsuccessful often talk about blame.

2- Sometimes you have to take the heat. On the chin, like an adult and live with it.

3- I find weeks to be a better measurement of productivity than days. You will have bad days but those are quickly forgotten about if it’s been a good week.

4- Jealousy is the most misinformed and destructive emotion.

5- Grammar is the artist’s enemy.

6- Achievement forgives most if not all sin.

7- Don’t be mad at the young. One’s age and inexperience are truly things that can only be solved by time, no matter how much older people want them to hurry and grow up already.

8- There were no good old days. Older and previous generations have fucked the world up so much and so many times, they’ve got a lot of balls to tell the next generation how to do things.

9- Equality is a no brainer. Treat those who are different the way you’d like to be treated.

10- No one is waiting to hand you an opportunity. People will help you, but they don’t know who’s worth investing their time in so you have to ask. Be gracious should you receive their help.

11- Embarrassment is a choice.

12- One of my proudest accomplishments has been the elimination of boredom. We all have the sum of human knowledge in our pockets. No one should ever be bored.

13- Telling people to “wake up” is not a great way to get them to open their minds. Not a conversation starter.

14- It’s better to have a pet.

15- Don’t be the person that smells. The marketplace is filled with fragrances and scents. Regular grooming is not too much for society to ask.

16- Apologies, when you think about them, don’t amount to much.

17- The reasons why some people like you are sometimes are the very same reasons other people dislike you. Always listen to the people who like you. People who dislike you are irrelevant to any of your decision making.

18- Be part of the solution, not the problem.  Everyone knows and can see what the problems are.  Not everyone knows how to offer and implement solutions.

19- If you don’t like how something is being done, you just may have to do it better yourself.

20- Clichéd but true: “Woulda, coulda, shoulda” hold no weight.

21- It’s always better to look forward than back. Nostalgia is nice but it can be a trap. Today’s events are tomorrow’s nostalgia, so enjoy them while they’re here.

22- People making fun of you is not a valid reason to stop doing something.

23- There is such a thing as luck. Especially when it’s accompanied by hard work, perseverance and determination.

24- The response to success and failure is the same: do better. Never stop trying to improve.

25- Old wrestling proverb that’s true: “When everybody looks good, everybody looks good.” Even in a hyper-competitive environment, “Every man for himself” doesn’t do anyone any good.

26- Speaking of looking good: there’s no avoiding that physical attraction plays a part in a successful relationship. But that doesn’t mean said physical attraction is based upon what society defines it as.

27- Spend time with positive people who believe in you. Never spend any time with people who do not contribute to your self-esteem. Avoid at all costs the negative people who don’t want you to take the plunge because they’re afraid to jump.

28- “Why do you feel the need to say that?” is a question that answers itself. Especially for writers. We only feel the need to say things.

29- No one has the right to tell anyone else to “shut up.” No one man’s voice is more important than another’s.

30- “Doctor Who” may be one of the great metaphors for life. If you lined up the 18 year old version, the 25 year old version and the 38 year old version of me, you’d see three distinctly different people, but all the same man. I bet that’d be true for you as well.

31- I’m always stunned when I hear others or myself saying “Things never change.” The world changes radically and drastically all the time. Domestic violence, racial discrimination and even the absence of seatbelts were all once social norms.

32- Many very miserable, unhappy people have a lot of money.

33- People care very much what other people think of them.

34- Talent begets talent. Spending time with people more talented than you will only help make you more talented.

35- There is no justifiable provocation for abuse or cruelty.

36- When in doubt, be kind.

37- Adulthood is a myth. We may be older and wiser in some respects but we’re all just bumbling through, trying not to trip over the furniture and get a grip on our own individual pain.

38- Joseph Campbell is absolutely right. This philosophy, I believe, will solve many, if not all of a person’s uncertainty and stresses about life. Seriously, I can’t even begin to tell you how many of my problems disappeared when I finally understood and lived by this philosophy:  “Follow your bliss. If you do follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while waiting for you, and the life you ought to be living is the one you are living. When you can see that, you begin to meet people who are in the field of your bliss, and they open the doors to you. I say, follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be. If you follow your bliss, doors will open for you that wouldn’t have opened for anyone else.”

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Haters Gonna Hate: Trolling The Trolls

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The 27 favorites and 13 retweets all came from total strangers.  It seems I struck a welcome chord in today’s rough and tumble internet frontier.  This was the original post I was replying to:

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For the record, I do not know Wil Wheaton.  I’ve never met him either through industry connections or at fan conventions.   He’s not endorsed me writing this blog and I do not speak for him in anycapacity whatsoever.  Unlike VictorWTF, I’m a fan of his work in Star Trek: The Next Generation (arguably the best US Science Fiction show ever) and especially his performance in “Stand By Me”. Mr. Wheaton and I both share a love of the LA Kings and Doctor Who. He’s done a tremendous job reinventing himself on-line and has the reputation of being an easy-going, fun-loving, all-around good guy.

He’s also an adult, a well-seasoned celebrity and certainly doesn’t need me sticking up for him or fighting his battles.  But still I had to say something on the twitter because there’s nothing quite as despicable and gutless as anonymous trolling, is there? And considering how folks responded to my tweet and some recent events, I figured this is a good time to investigate the modern phenomenon of anonymous internet bravery.

I’m kind of disappointed that the term troll has evolved to be used beyond the anonymous.  I remember (or maybe I misunderstood the term, I’m not 20 anymore) just a year or so ago when the trolls were only the cowards who hid behind aliases and fake photos.  Now trolling can be referring to even passing criticism of a celebrity or public figure.  I don’t think this is a good thing as I believe the cowards hiding behind keyboards deserve an exclusive epithet and “troll” more than fits.

Of course, irrational criticism of celebrities wasn’t born during the internet age but it seems like our online world has either shone a spotlight onto it or brought a lot of scum rising to the surface.  The fine folks at Jimmy Kimmel Live know how to make a joke out of it:

But take a look at some of those twitter handles.  Very few use a proper name and who knows if that’s even a real name.

The internet gives voice to the voiceless in many grand ways explored by both symbolic and practical activism.  But it also gives voice to the voiceless who have found no other way of expressing themselves productively.

Let me be very clear though, this blog is not meant as an indictment against online criticism.  This blog is an indictment of those who criticize without taking responsibility for their words and actions.  I like to debate and discuss a wide-range of topics on my twitter account (@handsometimmyd, go on, give a follow if you’re so inclined) but I have one policy: People can disagree with me all they want but anyone using a fake alias and/or doesn’t have a picture of a real person gets only one reply – and that’s usually to tell them they’re blocked.

(Now might be a good time to mention I will employ a similar policy on this blog. Disagreement, vehement or otherwise, is more than welcome in the comment section. Name-calling of myself or others will not be approved by this handsome devil.)

See, it’s hard to argue with someone in your real voice using your real face.  That requires the possibility of consequences.  It SUCKS being wrong, doesn’t it?  No one likes to be wrong, even fewer like to admit it.  But it happens to the best of us.  I’ve been wrong hundreds of times (back in 2002, I thought the Iraq War was a good idea until the WMDs were evidently not in existence.  I’ve gotten numerous technical details wrong. I’ve had to admit when I’ve written the wrong thing in a script or produced an episode of TV in the wrong direction. In 1996, I even thought the internet would be a fad soon to tire out.  Yup, I was wrong about all that shit.)  The sun still rises and sets of course. As much as it sucks to be wrong about stuff, it’s simply part of the human experience, much like failure that I’ve written about before.  But there’s something refreshing about writing about all that stuff openly – I can say (hell, I just put it in writing) that I’m man enough to admit that I’ve been wrong and not only that, learned quite a lot from those and other experiences of being “wrong.”

It’s funny but the older I get, which is each passing minute, the more I can admit I don’t know – and ironically, that makes me feel a lot smarter.

So everyone hates to be wrong.  If there’s anyone out there who likes it, I’ve not had the pleasure of meeting them.  But there’s more to it than that.  Hiding behind a keyboard and alias not only hides you from consequence – it hides you from hurt.  Maybe Victorhcj reveals everything about himself in his profile somewhere. I don’t know but I doubt it.  Because when you hide behind an alias you can say “YOU SUCK” all day long at people – and no one can say “YOU SUCK” back at you, not really.

Attacking people like this is engaging in a kind of modern day duel.  But it’s a duel that goes only one way.  The target gets all the rocks thrown at them, but the rocks that are thrown back are sent to the alias – not the true identity of the attacker.  That person can go about their day, feeling like they’ve accomplished something or giving themselves a false sense of superiority because they took it upon themselves to act like some of kind of digital Grover Norquist, thinking they speak for the rest of us.  In the example above, VictorPussyface speaks for “a significant amount of people” who hate Wil Wheaton because “he sucks.”  Whatever scientific method he used to take this survey and the exact statistical results of said survey, he elected not to post.

“But Tim, you’re calling Victor names and I may have seen you tweet John Boehner calling him an asshole once or twice. Isn’t that hypocritical of you? What’s the difference?”  I don’t think it’s hypocritical at all.  You see, I’m not hiding.  I’m Tim Davis.  My resume is available online at imdb and linkedin.  I appear regularly on a podcast.  My personal email is easy to find and my phone number is on my calling card which is all over town.

I got into a very fierce debate with John Cusack on twitter last year about the Edward Snowden gambit.  I didn’t troll him. I didn’t name-call him.  We just debated several points and I didn’t hide behind any alias.  He was debating with Tim Davis.  He knows my name & he knows my face.  I wasn’t some weird troll with a weirder name or a stupid picture.  In fact, I’m guessing Mr. Cusack engaged me in debate for so long BECAUSE I didn’t hide behind keyboard courage.  God knows, celebrities hear from countless nameless trolls every day, and as much as he disagreed with me, I wouldn’t be surprised if I got a hearty handshake from him one day over the whole affair.

And it’s not just celebrities.  I’m going to share three cases of anonymous trolling in my life.  They were some parts hurtful, borderline frightening and all equally pathetic.

The first occurred when I was in High School.  I was pranked called regularly by someone who instilled a fair amount of verbal abuse toward me.  They always used a different name when calling but never their real one.  It being small-town New Jersey, it wasn’t hard to figure out who it was.  I could tell you his name but it wouldn’t mean anything to you.  His main purpose was trying to goad me into a meeting or confrontation.  He told me to meet him at several points at certain times.  I took him up on none of these rendezvous figuring that physical harm was on the agenda and who needs that? We came close to calling the police but after hanging up on him so many times, he got bored and moved on to God knows what.  I don’t know where he is or what he’s up to.  And I don’t care.

The second occurred in 2004.  Remember Friendster?  Well, I was new to LA and someone set up a dummy account for the sole purpose of sending me one email.  The account was called “Cheez Whiz” and I doubt that appears on any birth certificate.  And there was no profile picture.  The gist of the email?  I was unwelcome in LA amongst my group of friends.  No one in LA liked me and also that despite my best efforts, I was ugly and bald.  This letter came at a particularly low period of time.  I was recently in a car accident and going through a very tough transition at work.  I hate to admit it, but this letter threw me for a loop.  I asked several of my friends what they thought of it and was given many numerous assurances that yes, I was indeed welcome in LA and that whoever sent the letter was the real asshole.  Really didn’t take that much to eventually figure out who it was that wrote that one either.  I’ve never confronted the person for 2 reasons 1) Deference to mutual friends.  I don’t want people to worry about inviting both of us to a party in case of drama 2) Is there really any point?  More on that later.

And you know what’s even more ironic, I was put in a position a few times to help this person out – and I did.  You know why?  Because I’m not the person they think I am – I’m a lot better person than they think I am.

The third instance I’m going to tell you about came up because of this blog.  Yup, I got my first piece of hate mail on my piece about guns “Just Another Day In America.”  It was from a dummy account under the name “Ed.” No picture, of course.  This person had this to say – and this is the one and only time I will allow abusive comments like this on the blog and it’s simply for context:

Knew this POS trust fund baby when he lived in Boston. Arrogant beyond belief. Especially for a guy with hair grown nearly down to the small of his back in order to compensate for his advanced male pattern baldness. (FYI: Everyone laughed about it behind your back.) So nice to know that back in those days you were screaming into your laundry basket when you weren’t being a condescending prick to anyone who wasn’t a woman, a racial minority, a homosexual, or uglier than you. Btw, how’s your talk show that you used to tell everyone you’d have?

I find the last part weird because the talk show I told everyone about was the podcast I’m part of now.  The Dan & Travis Show.  It’s awesome.  Check it out.  We did it in 2002 during the infancy of internet radio and we restarted it last year.  And it was very easy to find via google, so Ed can’t even do simple homework (always important when throwing stones).

(Side-note about the hairline thing: It’s low and crude to attack someone for something they have little-to-no control over. Ed, like Cheez-Whiz, sound like that goofy thug in “Roxanne” saying “big nose” because I can come with 20 better jokes off the top of my head easy.)

Ed here decided to attack me opening up about personal pain here.  Well, I’m a writer.  Every writer will have to be honest with themselves and write about their personal pain for all the world to see.  If he thinks this is detracting me from doing more opening up about personal pain, I have disappointing news for him.  In fact, I have A LOT of disappointing news for him in a bit.

So, you may be asking yourself – well shit, Tim, did you deserve this?  Ed from Boston says you were arrogant beyond belief.  Were you arrogant?  Were you an asshole?  Were you some kind of prick?  Did you say things that hurt people’s feelings?  Did you offend people, however accidentally?

Of course, I did.  I’m plenty guilty of things like that.  Like being wrong, it’s part of the human experience.  Anyone NOT full of piss & vinegar in their 20’s? (And if you weren’t, MAN did you miss out.)   Am I arrogant?  I think my confidence has slid to the arrogant/egotistic side at times. Sure, I’ll cop to that.  There’s always room for lessons in humility.  Am I an asshole?  Well, of course there have been many situations and conversations I wish I handled better but that’s certainly not unique to me.  We’ve all had those.  There are plenty of people in this world who don’t like me.  But here’s the interesting thing: many of the reasons some people don’t like me are the very reasons other people like me.  So what in the world did I do to make these people so upset that they had to sum up all of their false internet bravery to anonymously try to hurt my feelings.

Because trolling has one purpose and one purpose only: to hurt people.

Besides, any betterment I’ve received as a person has been face to face from real friends – not unsigned letters from gutless trolls.

Like I said, I know who two of these people are (sorry, “Ed’, for the life of me, I have no clue who you are).  And when I looked at their lives then looked at mine, I realized what I had done.  I wasn’t being trolled because I was an asshole sometimes.  I was being trolled from the very opposite reason.  Here’s my great sin:

I’m a happy and successful person.

(Yeah, OK, I’m a lot more outspoken and opinionated than some others which will of course lead to being targeted more – though I’m not sure how that justifies being trolled. Especially because I am an easy to find open book who is more than happy to talk about anything.)

But when I look at the totality of my life and accomplishments, I can see what makes these sad people so angry:

-My closest friends are truly golden human beings anyone reading this would be glad to know. I can’t begin to describe my luck when I think of the people I’m closest with.

-I’m in a healthy, long-term relationship with a successful, intelligent and beautiful woman with no low standards.  (It doesn’t hurt that I can cook too)

-I have 614 Facebook friends & believe it or not, I’m selective.  If I can’t see myself having lunch with you, I’m not approving the friend request.

-I have worked alongside, learned from and been instructional to some of the most talented people in my chosen profession.  My services have been requested by some of the best crews in Los Angeles.  My skills as a writer have been endorsed by movie producers, film festivals and other more-acclaimed writers. That is not only an honor, it’s a privilege.

-I have close to 800 twitter followers, not always folks I know but many acquired through networking as I transition from reality to scripted.

-I’m also blessed and fortunate to be able to say that I have friends and family who would put me up in the following cities; Seattle, Phoenix, Boston, Salem, Baltimore, Minneapolis, Houston, Chicago, Orlando, Gibbsboro, Las Vegas, New York, San Francisco, and London.  I know this because they’ve told me “You have to visit us.”

-I say none of this with any kind of arrogance.  It may literally be impossible for me to truly express the gratitude I feel for the life I’m living.  And the same can be said for so many of the people I choose to spend my precious time with.  People who worked hard and smart to live the lives they want on the paths they’ve chosen.

-I’ve been successful in every profession I’ve endeavored on, from being promoted to the corporate office at City Sports to writing copy for Stone Cold Steve Austin.  I smile as I go about my day.  I dance in the shower.  I sing in the car.  When I set out into the world, I know that I’m in my own small way, helping.  I’ve followed my bliss.  Just like Wil Wheaton.  Just like countless other celebrities.  Just like countless other successful people who are not famous but are living happy lives as I type this.  Just like anyone who looks in the mirror and likes what they see.

And THAT’S what the trolls can’t stand.  When others are happy – and they’re not.  So instead of following their own bliss or doing what they can to make themselves either happier or at least on the way to happiness, it’s easier to try to tear down others.  Especially from behind an internet shield where they can hide their plentiful vulnerabilities, insecurities and hurts.

Because underneath every angry, hateful line a troll is writing, is one underlying thought:

“How dare you try to be happy when I’m not?”

For my past sins, anyone whom I owe an apology to has gotten it.  I will, however, never ever under any circumstances apologize for being successful or trying to be happy.  No one should ever apologize for that.

Because to take to a nameless, faceless identity to attack someone, God almighty.  That’s a bit more than just an asshole move.  It’s not merely pathetic or weak or gutless or petty.

It’s sick.

To be so consumed by hatred and anger and jealousy – whatever world these guys and other anonymous internet keyboard haters inhabit is a frightening and sad place.  I hope you, dear reader, and I never end up there.

So, Ed, Cheez-Whiz and every other internet troll hiding behind a keyboard: YES, I dare to be happy.  And I will continue to be happy.  I will continue to endeavor and bust my ass every day to further my career.  I will continue to improve my writing skills.  I will continue to try to be a better, more generous, more thoughtful, more considerate person.  I will continue to blog my thoughts and opinions under my real name Tim Davis (and my wrestling-bump earned nickname of Handsome Timmy D) for the world to see, read, enjoy and disagree with.

Over the past 15 years, I can think of about 6 or 7 people whom I truly despise. A handful of folks whom I find irredeemable in any way, folks whom I can say I truly HATE.  I think about them sometimes, my blood boils for a few minutes – and then I move on with my day.  I do my best to keep them in the rearview because that’s how I handle people I hate.  I have nothing to do with them.  No contact whatsoever, via social media or otherwise (again apart from mutual politeness for the benefit of our friends).  They become non-issues in my life aside from what the memory triggers.

I want to have a happy, successful and productive life.  I want to laugh and be giddy and over the top and goofy and silly and dance like there’s no tomorrow.  And no matter how bad a day, no matter how stressed or overwhelmed I get, no matter who vehemently I argue my points – I just don’t ever want to live a life where I hurt people.

I hadn’t thought of the prank caller in years, Cheez-Whiz I still see now and then but Ed’s hateful email brought them to the surface.  But return to the rearview they will where I’m sure they’ll be joined by more future anonymous trolls.

However, Ed did me an accidental favor.  I went onto social media outlets announcing that this dear old blog had received its first piece of hate mail.  The result?  The traffic on the blog Skyrocketed to see what the hubbub was about:

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Funny, but it looks like a middle finger right at Ed, doesn’t it?  It was my most read day and almost served as a kind of coming out party for me as I’m restarting this blog and am still building my readership.  And that’s how I have to take that hate-mail just like how people should take every bit of anonymous trolling: Just another sign of success.

Epilogue:

When you leave a comment on here, you have to give an email so with Ed’s trolling was an email address.  I don’t know if it was his real email address or not.  I wasn’t going to reply because it’s best not to fight on their terms, but because my traffic exploded, I couldn’t resist.  Just in case he hijacked someone else’s email, I hid the real name I found when I researched it.  But here’s the email I sent to him.  To the surprise of no one, there’s been no reply.

After all, there’s bravery quite like anonymous internet bravery:

Hello Ed or (name excised),
        You gave the name Ed to wordpress but when I researched your email, I found the name “(excised)”.  If you are neither of these people, then your email has been hijacked or erroneously used & I apologize for bothering you on this lovely Saturday.
        If I am addressing the person who commented on my blog, though, I must first Thank You Very Much for your interest and comments.  However, I have a policy of not allowing name-calling in the comments sections so I’m afraid I couldn’t approve your comment.
        I must Thank You again though because when I publicized your comment as my first piece of hate-mail (you must admit, it was on the hateful side) the traffic to my blog DOUBLED in an hour.  Today has been my highest traffic/read day so far so Thanks to your comment, you’ve been able to contribute to my growing digital popularity.  I’m new at this blogging thing so I appreciate all the help I can get.
        I have to correct you on one small detail, I am not associated with nor ever have been associated with any trust funds.  I earned every dollar I ever got, whether in retail or over the past 10 years as a Television Producer in which I contributed to shows which have entertained millions of people around the world.
        You claim to know me well, but for the life of me, I cannot remember you who are.  (No Eds or xx ring a bell, xx or otherwise)  Sorry, but try as I might, I’ve not lived in Boston or on the East Coast for over 12 years so forgive me for not recalling you out of the hundreds of people I knew & worked with during those years.
         I wish you all the best – and quite frankly, hope you find some peace in the world instead of anonymously attacking people you haven’t seen in over a decade.  Take Care.
May The Best Days Be Ahead… ————— 

Tim Davis 
Writer/Producer 
handsometimmyd.wordpress.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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